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Former Wallaby wins plaudits after coming out as gay

Former Wallaby wins plaudits after coming out as gay

RUGBY: Former Test prop Dan Palmer won plaudits yesterday (Oct 30) after becoming the first Wallabies player to come out as gay, a decision spurred in part by homophobic comments by sacked star Israel Folau.

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By AFP

Saturday 31 October 2020, 03:22PM


Former Test prop Dan Palmer said homophobic comments by sacked star Israel Folau had damaged the game of rugby. Photo: AFP.

Former Test prop Dan Palmer said homophobic comments by sacked star Israel Folau had damaged the game of rugby. Photo: AFP.

The 32-year-old played for NSW Waratahs and ACT Brumbies in Super Rugby and also had a stint with French club Grenoble, earning one cap for Australia in 2012 against Scotland.

He hung up his boots in 2015 and in a column for the Sydney Morning Herald yesterday revealed the struggles he faced throughout his career, including contemplating suicide.

“I was trapped in a false narrative and could see no way out,” he said in becoming only the second international to publicly acknowledge he is gay after former Wales captain Gareth Thomas, who came out in 2009.

“Most nights, I cried myself to sleep and routinely numbed myself with a heavy cocktail of opioids,” he wrote.

“I fantasised about disappearing, changing my name and starting my life all over again,” he added. “It is not an exaggeration to say my own death felt preferable to anybody discovering I was gay.”

Despite his demons, Palmer said he enjoyed his time at the Waratahs and Brumbies and never felt discriminated against, insisting “the battle for me was primarily with myself”.

While not feeling able to go public at the time, he said born-again Christian Folau’s explosive comments last year that “hell awaits” gay people and the subsequent fallout spurred him to act.

“Although it wasn’t the primary impetus for me doing this, the longer the Folau saga dragged on, the more I felt a responsibility to say something,” he said.

“To me, what is more important than the damage he has caused rugby is the deep impact he has undoubtedly had on kids who looked up to him, and who struggle every day with understanding their sexuality.

“Thankfully, from my experience in rugby, views like Israel’s are the exception, not the rule.”

Folau, Super Rugby’s record try-scorer who played 73 times for the Wallabies, was fired by Rugby Australia and NSW Rugby after his comments in a move that proved highly divisive.

He now plays in France after settling a multi-million-dollar lawsuit over his sacking.

“I feel really happy for Dan, I do know Dan, he’s a great bloke, a great Wallaby, a great rugby player and now coach,” said current Wallabies captain Michael Hooper, referring to Palmer’s role as a coach with the Brumbies.

“I wish him all the best, it was a powerful column.”

Another former Wallaby David Pocock, a staunch campaigner for marriage equality, also paid tribute, calling Palmer “one of the best men I got to know and play alongside in rugby”.

“I believe sport is at its best when it’s challenging society to be more inclusive. A good reminder of how much more work there is to do,” Pocock added.

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